So, I have this new pet peeve. The misconception that being “drunk” somehow justifies, promiscuous, irresponsible actions. I take pride in the fact that when I’m “fucked up” I still am well aware of the shitty choices I make. YES, I’m more prone to suppress my better judgement and say things, do things, and sleep with people that I may not have if I wasn’t under the influence.

But those people who think that how much alcohol they consumed makes their shitty actions more tolerable, drive me to the point of insanity. I DONT CARE HOW DRUNK YOU ARE, you should be able to discern what’s right and what’s wrong.

Let’s focus in on the topic of infidelity. Temptation can be a very tough thing, sober or not. However, I’m a strong believer of conscious and knowing when something doesn’t “feel right.” If you’re in a relationship, there are several different levels of “cheating” and unfaithfulness. For some, the more open minded, perhaps, cheating may be actual sexual intercourse. We’ve heard the classic phrase “It was a one time drunken kiss, it was nothing babe.” Some couples are totally fine with that behavior and their love or lust can tolerate such things. But when you truly love someone, you will have a guilty, uneasy feeling just at the thought of breaking the bond of trust by ANY physical interaction with a partner other than the one you are seeing.

I’ve been there before myself. I knew when I was slowly setting up the scenario for unfaithfulness. I was going to a party, texting a girl other than my girlfriend, being flirtatious with her when I KNEW I should have never even started. Those seemingly harmless actions alone were enough for guilt to set in. Once I knew that there was a possibility that something may happen between the other girl and I, I called my girlfriend of a year and broke up with her. I didn’t have a very good reason, other than I knew my lust and infatuation for someone else was obviously more important to me, even in a subconscious way, that her and my relationship. I wanted to fuck someone else, I wanted to flirt with someone else, I wanted to cuddle and have all the cute, cookie cutter routine bullshit with SOMEONE ELSE, and I broke things off. 

There comes a time where you have to know when to get out. Because its total bullshit to fool yourself and your girlfriend or boyfriend that your relationship is genuine and meaningful if you’re fucking around on the side. Forget the circumstance, forget the booze, if you hook up with someone else, you don’t deserve companionship. End of story. 

I was talking to my friend Sean about this concept and brought up this point for every lush out there that tries to hide their promiscuity under the idea of “I got super wasted and it kind of just happened.” Let’s think about this for a second. For those of you who have a sibling, brother or sister, have you ever got hammered with them? I know my sister and I have definitely drank way too much together in the past. Now, does the thought ever cross your mind during your bro and sis drunken pow wow to suddenly rip off you’re close and engage in some kind of sexual act? “GROSS JOSH!” Yeah, of course, I know it sounds absurd but seriously think about it?

WHAT keeps us from hooking up with our brother or sister when we drink? Do you ever hear “yeah man I’m sorry, I was black out drunk and banged my sister last night, it was a drunken mistake.” FUCK NO we don’t. If someone used that excuse, would you think it’s okay? “Oh he was drunk, its totally fine.” God forbid we ever stroll down the yellow brick road of incest no matter what narcotics or alcohol that’s involved. So using that same logic, if you’re dating someone, any other person except for HER or HIM, should be treated the same way as you would your own sibling. JUST DONT FUCKING HAVE SEXUAL RELATIONS. That’s the goal here, just don’t do that.

I’ll end on this note. I am really proud that I take responsibility for my actions. I am well aware of what I’m doing at all times, how it will directly affect me, affect others, and affect those that are closest to me. Sometimes I do really shitty things and I know what to expect in return, but at least I am aware of them and am ready to deal with the consequences. I refuse to hide behind alcohol or any other excuse to justify the things I do. I’m no coward and every thing I do in life is carefully analyzed. I eliminate guilt by being honest, you should try it sometime.