It’s quite an empty feeling when you have everything you want laid out in front of you, but knowing you may NEVER obtain it. I’d almost rather not have it at all rather then getting a small taste,  knowing I’ll never be satisfied.

I’ve viewed many things in my life this way and observed the same situations in the the lives of my close friends. It could be a relationship you long for but you know circumstances just wont permit. It could be a talented musician who creates amazing music, but will fall victim to a failing and over saturated music industry. A college student who could never financially make ends meet and no longer can pursue the degree they want.

Ever feel like the timing isn’t right? You’re never right where you want to be?

I’ll focus on relationships and present a conclusios I’ve drawn. Meeting compatible people, for me at least, has never been the problem. I’ve met so many people that make me immensely happy, people I connect with on levels that many of you will NEVER connect with me on. “There’s so many more fish in the sea.” We’ve all heard that annoying cliche garbage our entire lives, but it does hold some truth. I always tell my friends who are hung up on some guy or girl, that if they were to simply move to the next town over they will find someone who is as good or better. There are far too many humans on this earth to have ONE “soul mate.” 

Apologies if the following pisses on your theories of perfect love and finding “the one” to spend the rest of your life with staring at your white picket fence from your porch’s perfect view. I think people can be perfect for each other in a specific moment in time depending on a countless number of circumstances. Hopefully their love can last forever, but to think there’s only ONE person that you were meant to be with or could only be happy with, is an extremely shitty way to live your life. 

There are thousands of people, just in whatever state you live in alone, that could complete you as much as the next one. I think we all have seen and experienced this. You’ve cried your eyes out over some ex boyfriend that you swore was the one. After the relationship ends and some time passes, boy were you fucking wrong. It’s all perception and situational. I guarantee you found someone new that made you just as happy and you’ll laugh now at how foolish you must have sounded. 

So compatibility with multiple people has never been the problem. The PROBLEM is timing. Timing fucking sucks. Have you ever fallen for someone new in your life and they just so conveniently happen to be moving to a different state, transferring schools, or perhaps the classic “I just got out of a long relationship.” These situational roadblocks that are the only thing keeping the two of you from being so happy together. You can fake it all you want and pretend the distance or their baggage won’t be a big deal, that your feelings can persevere through any obstacle, but as for myself, I regretfully decline that challenge.

I’d rather call it a loss and wait for the next one to come along, the next one who isn’t moving away, or hasn’t just got out of a relationship. The next one who’s choices have brought them to me, as have mine to them, and the timing is perfection. Those people are out there, you just have to find them. It can be a long, frustrating process, but so is forcing something that just isn’t going to work.

I’m not saying love is supposed to come easy, you may have to fight for it. But I’d rather fight to preserve it and maintain that love, watch it grow, as opposed to just fighting to make it happen. 

You have to be careful and know how decide what’s a practical situation and what is irrational. This can be extremely difficult to discern when strong emotions are involved, trust me, I know. But sometimes the best thing you can ever do for yourself is let go of the things you never even had to begin with.

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